Category Archives: Dating & Sex
Next Level Dating Mixology Mixers: Clinton Paul
One time I went to a speed dating event and I promised myself then and there – never again. See, here’s my problem… I’m actually pretty shy, so putting me in a room full of people who I’ve never met and then having me talk to them for a few minutes… naturally my first impression is the worst thing ever. Honestly, I don’t think I had one match that night (but if we’re being honest, none of them really appealed to me much either besides this one brunette… but I’m pretty sure I asked what she does for work 4 times in 3 minutes, so there goes that one.)
I am better under two conditions… either I have to know them a bit first (thus why I like social media), or the atmosphere has to be fun/involve a drink or two. Dating events are typically pretty tense in my experience, so when a friend told me about an event his friend was organizing through her new company, Clinton Paul, I was eager to learn more about what it was and if it would appeal to me. I like doing favours for friends (Yes, my blog is nepotism friendly!), so I was happy to provide them with some blog coverage, but then I learned about them some more and a favour turned into a desire to blog about it! There’s enough lonely hearts in Toronto, and in the social media world especially to warrant some upscale dating opportunities! They touch on a bunch of things I like – entrepreneurship, social media, dating AND, best of all, they answered the questions that might help get me laid!
What makes your dating events different than other ones?
6 simple points of difference:
- We are not speed dating. Our events are based on activities that are fun, non-threatening and interactive. This allows for guests to relax, flirt and have real conversations with each other without the formality of “dating in a hurry”. The pressure is off.
- Our marketing strategy is geared towards professionals, with the intent to establish a client base with similar interests and ambitions.
- We are making a commitment to having as much of an equal number of females to males for each event. (At this time are only offering heterosexual events, with a keen interest in expanding).
- We have a suggested age range for each event so that it is loose enough for those interested in meeting above or below their age but is also restrictive enough so that our match-ups are not way off base. Our research shows that the majority of females date 5 years below or above their age, and that the majority of males date 8 years below and 3 years above their age.
- Easy registration! We do not ask for a laundry list of characteristics and traits from our guests. We believe relationships of any level are built from a foundation beyond looks, body type and interests. It’s nice to have something in common, but opposites also attract. Relationships and romance cannot be quantified.
- The awkward standing around ritual that exists at other singles events is eliminated. Our events are planned such that our guests rotate through the room and meet everyone else at the event. They bond and form relationships over light competitions and activities, so you are in no way required to catalyze your own mingling.
Will the numbers balance out – by that I mean, in a perfect world, would every person be able to pair off at the event?
In a perfect world, yes! Though we cannot guarantee an exact balance of numbers, we are committed to acquiring a close ratio of males to females for each event. Moreover, our events work best when our numbers balance out, so we make it a priority to try to ensure they do!
How are you marketing your dating events?
Social media all the way! Through facebook, twitter, foursquare, meetup and youtube we aim to provide our fans with poll questions, interesting facts and statistics about dating, married life and lifestyle in general as well as give them an update on our event listings. Through our blogs and vlogs we hope to put a face to our company and make a stand for a human approach to dating. Moreover, we have and will continue to do face-to-face campaigning throughout the GTA.
Can you explain more about how social media is helping?
Through social media we have been able to get the word out about our company and our events. We are able to learn about who would be interested in what type of events and focus our advertising. Our friends have been more than happy to repost links and garner interest and attention on our behalf. Social media is our key outreach strategy and will continue to be!
Are you single/dating/married? If so, how did you and he(she?) meet?
Sheila – dating. Good old Canadian story. Our brothers played hockey on the same team for 3 years, and on the last game we both came to watch. 2 beers, a trip to see Ninja Turtles and a smooch or two later, we were set.
Melanie – single and loving every minute of it! I date with the intention of finding the right guy but have not found a anyone who can hold my attention…yet.
Had/have you been to a lot of dating events?
Before we started our business we didn’t feel as though there was any need. We’ve since scoped out a few of our competitors to be sure we had a clear point of difference. We thought it was a great idea in theory but found the execution of them to be awkward and didn’t reach the potential it could be…hence the birth of Clinton Paul!!
What is the BEST advice you have for a single guy who’s basically undateable? Should I be going for girls with bad faces, but great bodies and personalities? Should I not be so picky?
Alright, seriously. Confidence. We are of the “Hitch” philosophy, anyone can date anyone. If any kind of guy came up to us with a little bit of swagger, we would definitely give him the time of day… and maybe more than that ;) It’s all in the approach.
What’s a good number of *belt notches* that a guy should have by the time he’s 25? As a scientist, what number is best?
From where we are sitting, it doesn’t matter as long as he’s got the goods when its crunch time. All jokes aside though, a guy with little experience is easier to shape into your perfect lover and an experienced gentlemen may show you a thing or two.
Is it true that women decide within the first 30 second whether or not they are interested in a guy?
Melanie – yes. 10 seconds actually. Might be why I’m single. ;)
Sheila – I think if anything it’s the other way around. Common misconception – ladies can be won over.
Your event, how many people will be there?
Each event has a different amount of people. Generally somewhere between 40 – 60 per event.
Where and when is it?
Our first event is September 22, 2011 at 7:00pm. It’s taking place at the BartenderOne training facility at Empire Lounge at 50 Cumberland Street (Cumberland and Bay). With the closest metro being either Yonge or Bay.
And what does it cost?
This event is $80 + HST. Included is 4 cocktail creations, 3 flare lessons, a cocktail trivia station, 8 professional mixologists, lip-smacking hors d’oeuvres and an opportunity to meet friends and potential lovers.
Anything else?
We currently host 1 event per week that vary in price, activity and suggested age groupings. Some of our events include a Beerology Mixer being held at the Bier Markt, a Casino night taking place at Fallsview Casino and an Indoor Beach Volleyball Mixer for more active singles.
We take suggestions of events and offer free tickets to those who came up with the concept, so anyone can create their ideal mixer. Email us at info@clintonpaul.ca anytime! We also specialize in event concept and creations for private and corporate events.
Check them out at: ClintonPaul.ca, on Facebook, or on Twitter.
Your Blog Topics
The other day I put out a simple question to Twitter “What should I blog about?” figuring I’d get an interesting topic from someone. What I ended up getting was actually a bunch of interesting topics and it didn’t seem fair to just blog about one of them, so I’m going to address each one suggested in one article. (I may make this a biweekly thing as it might be fun!)
Clearly this is in response to the Amy Winehouse death. I don’t know what it is to be honest. Maybe our lives are so boring or so awful that we need to distract ourselves with the pain of others to get by? Once, almost a half decade ago I cared about celebrity deaths… but that was because there was a year long bet on celeb deaths – a death pool. How’s that for morbid? (I won btw, $250).
My guess is people just like feeling bad about things. It’s why the media always tells awful stories of death and despair. It’s a sickness that we all have, and because we all have it it’s just written off as normal. People die… I don’t know why it’s such a big deal.
Ironically, Amy Winehouse’s dad is setting up a foundation to help people with addiction… because he was so good at helping those with it. (Yeah yeah I’m a jerk.)
The link is about the US Debt Ceiling. You know… the States are pretty fucked up. I don’t think anyone down there is sane anymore. Barack Obama has shown to be an AWFUL president. He promised changed, and then brought in all the same people Bush worked with. The same people who caused the mess are now being tasked to fix it. Boehner is the dumbest orange with a mouth you’ll ever see, This guy is a nutcase. “Annoying Orange” compared to Annoying Orange Boehner isn’t even a fair comparison.
Here’s the reality, there will be a deal. It will come right around August 1st and anyone who actually thinks the US will default doesn’t understand that the 2012 election campaign has started already. The funniest thing about this whole thing of how transparent Obama + Boehner have been about it… Obama’s original plan covered the debt problem until just after the 2012 election (passing the buck) whereas the Boehner plan would go just before the election (ensuring Obama loses).
Wish fitness could be easier. But that being said, I’m looking forward to being in great shape! I’ve been doing P90X and seeing improvements already! So today is July 28th… so by December, women better be ready for me to be filled with testosterone and more flirty than I already am! They may even flirt back if there’s any kind of improvement over what I look like now.
Can you hire interns that are all attractive? About 2 years ago I worked with a company that’s interns were honestly the hottest girls they could have found. They had about 3 interns and all three of them made working very difficult. The hot outfits they wore all trying to outdo each other… and god damned they knew how to flirt. I could use a couple interns….
That being said, interns should be paid and I dislike all of these companies that use interns. I’ve known interns who work at marketing and advertising companies who actually did the work of their collegues – with no pay. Ridiculous. Pay your god damned interns you cheap ass companies, even if it’s minimum wage – give them something to actually assist with the expensive cost of living, transit, eating and school!
Hahaha, I need to get some Jewish interns to help write me stuff. This made me laugh when I saw it. It’s midsummer and in summary, it’s been a good one for the most part. I think there’s been a shift in Toronto’s social media scene and it’s not a good one. It’s led to a lot of strange behaviour by a lot of people. As such, I’ve taken a step back from it all. I’ve always heard people say “It’s like highschool” and didn’t really see it… but now I do. Collectively let’s grow up ya? Also… not enough bikini pictures! (Feel free to send to busseyzach@gmail.com… ZachBussey.com could use a sexy host!)
Meryl Streep: Great actor, obviously can fake an orgasm convincingly. She could be in any movie and pull off the role! I’d like to see her in an action flick though.
Anne Hathaway: Ahhh god she’s hot. She’s probably one of the most ideal girls in Hollywood to date… is she dating anyone these days? If you get a chance, check out Love and Other Drugs – convinced me I was developing Parkinson’s.
Sarah Jessica Parker: Horse with dead eyes. Leave Ferris Bueller alone.
Kim Cattrall: Love that she fucked Trudeau.
Kristin Davis: Do women actually relate to her? I find her as annoying as Cynthia Nixon.
Cynthia Nixon: Just as annoying as Kristin Davis. I watched the SATC show like 15 times, and every story involving her was annoying.
Sleep is great. Since changing my diet and working out more I find I need less sleep and feel more energized! Though maybe after reading this post, it will help you sleep. Haha, maybe this whole idea isn’t that good after all… guess we’ll see. You need to have a little physical activity before you go to bed and you’ll sleep great! ;)
A Sexy Sunday
God damn it’s hot out! Everyone out there is wearing next to nothing, it’s sweaty, hot, jungle humid… it’s actually kind of sexy (but not in a good way)… and the entire week is supposed to be like this! People will actually say “Oh don’t complain it’ll be cold before you know it” but these people are idiots. I like warm weather, who doesn’t? But if I’m lying in bed NOT EVEN DOING ANYTHING (get your minds out of the gutter!) and I feel like I just was involved in an orgy in a Brazilian bar in the middle of the jungle – it’s too damn hot. Especially considering there’s no real payoff like an orgy in a Brazilian bar in the middle of the jungle might have. Warm is good but passionate, hot, sultry, sweaty, jungle love when you’re doing nothing is not.
But there’s been a bunch of stories I wanted to write about this week and I couldn’t figure out how to do it individually… so instead I’m going to cover all the topics here and thus it will be a A Sexy Sunday!
First, the Got Milk PMS ads are some of the best ads out there because they get people talking about… Milk. Milk is not interesting by itself. It’s milk. This new campaign, which features a bunch of confused guys trying to make right whatever they did wrong is sure getting people talking. “Oh but it’s sexist.” Really? Because pretty sure what it should be titled is both ‘accurate’ and ‘hilarious’! I love women, but the reality is… sometimes you don’t make sense!
I had a girlfriend who invited me to her place for dinner… when I got there, she asked me “Where’s dinner?” What the fuck! And it turned into a fight because I was supposed to know that “Come over for dinner,” meant “Come over and bring dinner.” Had she just asked me to bring dinner, there would never have been an issue. (We broke up pretty soon after that because this was a reoccurring theme, and I believe in saving apologies for when they are really needed and not just because I don’t read minds haha.)
So women who are offended by this, lighten up! Drink some milk… maybe it’s good for improving a sense of humour too? The reality is this is funny. It pokes fun at something all men have dealt with at a certain point. Maybe the lesson here is let’s all be a little more honest with each other and we won’t run into misunderstandings? And let’s all remember, these are the people who brought you the “Got Milk?” ads… 
Next up… Women sext more than men. Which is probably a flawed title, because unless all of these women are sexting other women, then the likelihood is that straight women and men sext the same amount. Unless I’m missing something here? Also, this study was based on women who are already on Ashley Madison, the world renowned safest way to cheat on your partner dating service. Soooo, it really should be “Women are more honest about their sexting behind their husbands/boyfriends back than men with their wives/girlfriends.” But that’s a shitty looking title. It also says that women are more likely to send naked pictures of themselves.
Interestingly enough, some of my favourite female friends started in pseudo-sexting situations. I don’t mean to brag (mostly because I don’t know that it’s any kind of great skill to have… I’d trade it all to be great in bed) but I think I’m pretty good at it and no one on the receiving end has complained. Granted they’ve been single so not exactly the same as the article mentions. Oh wait… I think I get it… if I sext with 10 women, that’s a Female-to-Male ratio of 10-1. So women DO sext more.
Lastly, what the fuck is up with Dominic Strauss-Kahn?! He admitted he had sex with 3 different women in a sex binge that started Friday night until Saturday afternoon – before the alleged rape. Two things… does French health care cover the cost of Viagra?! There is NO way this guy is able to perform this well at his age. The guy is 62! Also what’s up with the wife? How many guys is she fooling around with to have no issue with her husband being with all these women? This whole story just keeps getting more and more odd.
Wonder if the wife is a sexter and how much milk she drinks? That’s not a pun!
Stay cool everyone and if you are going to engage in some hot, passionate, sultry, jungle love… may I recommend a shower or pool? Heat stroke isn’t an ideal climax to your night. Oh… and involve some ice! ;)
A Look Into My Crazy Mind
There has been a trend recently of people blogging “Things I Wish People Knew About Me”. I was planning on avoiding this topic because I’m pretty honest about my life as it is… but also because I wasn’t entirely convinced that it was an interesting topic. While I’m still not convinced an ‘incident’, for the lack of a better term occurred earlier today. And while the day was supposed to have an awesome end to it spent with the great people at Hill & Knowlton, instead it spiraled out of control and resulted in me just making a brief appearance and then dashing off to my therapist where I had someone to help me deal with my problem. So here’s a sincere blog with a look inside my head and I’m having trepidation about even posting it… but whatever.
Earlier I got involved in an exchange of words with some people over someone who shares my name. My “argument” being that I didn’t like how this person was essentially only interacting with people who know me (despite him living in Arizona) and I feared that was somehow hurting me or my reputation. This defense was quickly torn apart and my perceived superiority complex emerged. “You’re an idiot.” “You’re sad.” “Grow up.” etc. The playground antics where people gang up on someone when they’re down started. (My therapist says this is due to deep seeded resentment towards me that when people find a flaw, they all take a shot at it to somehow make themselves feel better about whatever resentment they harbour towards me. It’s just funny that for the most part it came from people I’ve had nothing but good things to say about.) It’s antagonistic though and serves no point really. It’s possible they were kidding, but my interpretation was that they were not. Tyler Conium was calling a spade a spade, and while it definitely came off as argumentative more than constructive – in hindsight, I understand and maybe it will make more sense if he reads this.
So here’s my problem – I have my own insecurities (who doesn’t right?) but I recognize most of them and have learned to handle them as they occur. It’s honest hour so let’s list some of the one’s I’ve had/have of which I’ve either dealt with or can control – relationships, trust, jealousy, looks/body image, drinking (alcohol), eating in restaurants and sex (insecurity about being ‘good’ in bed or just not measuring up). By all accounts, with this list alone I should probably be in therapy 7 days a week eh?
But from time to time, some new one’s emerge. One that’s come up over the last couple months is fears about my name. I worry that it will be used for something malicious or stupid etc. It’s idiotic I know… Even writing it I say to myself “You really think your name means that much?” and I get it… getting freaked out or concerned about someone else with my name is idiotic. There’s more important things to worry about right? I get it. I’m not out of touch with reality. I don’t have a superiority complex…. what I have is an insecurity. It’s not rational. It doesn’t make sense and it’s frankly pretty stupid and petty.
But it is what it is.
And while I recognize it, dealing with it is a whole other thing. Common sense dictates not caring about it and maybe being aware that that’s what common sense is, will help – but so far no such luck. It’s why I put out silly defenses like “people will misinterpret it as me” or other things that are clearly flawed. It’s me trying to rationalize rather than deal with it.
I don’t know the timeline for fixing it – maybe just writing about it and understanding how stupid it really is will help. But for now, if anyone is interested in really cutting me down and making me feel terrible – feel free to tell me how the other Zach Bussey’s are better than me, or more likable or whatever. It’s a soft spot for me, and my detractors are welcome to use it to their advantage.
I’m bound to have more issues in future (probably directly related to the insecurity I’m having about this post right now haha) but for now there’s a glimpse into the side of Zach I wish you didn’t have to know. Hopefully, this doesn’t have to be a regular occurrence, because I’m nearly positive this was the worst post I’ve ever written.
But to make it a little more interactive, anyone else have any insecurities they would like to share?
The Oprah Bussey Giveaway Update
I’ve got some stuff to giveaway and I figured the best way to do it would be all in one post! I’m like Oprah, except you don’t all win and I’m not a woman, nor black (wait, Klout says I’m influential about Black People so does that sorta count?), nor on a television show… or that overweight (I’m on a diet)… or that rich. So scratch that, I’m not at all like Oprah. I’m just some guy giving away some stuff that you likely want.
First, Lindsey Kelk has written a new book. It’s called The Single Girls To Do List and is available to buy in stores at the beginning of August. But I have a pre-release copy to give away… and it’s signed! Now I’ve read the book(I have my own copy) and actually liked it. You get to know the characters and actually care about the main character, who has a really hot name – Rachel Summers. There’s a breakup and she’s trying to deal with it – well after one last breakup hookup. (Let me add, I always liked those.) So now newly single, Rachel with the help of her friends sets out a ‘bucket list’ of things to do now that she’s single.
Two camera pictures... that I put into one picture haha, I didn't rip a page out!
I won’t spoil the rest, you’ll have to read for yourself. But, the writing is fun, upbeat and interesting. Fabio never enters the frame… and there’s more than enough talk of sex to keep a simple male mind interested in it too! My only critique is one that isn’t really a critique at all, Lindsey is English and as such, some of the mentions and word choices aren’t really that well known to most North Americans. You could figure it out (or Google it if you really had to.) An enjoyable read for me which was a shock – I only read non-fiction or violent action books or one’s with pictures.
Secondly, Volkswagen Canada and the Freedriving Experience is coming to Toronto on July 22nd to Ontario Place. I’ve got a VIP Invitation for two to give away. As a VIP, you’ll get to drive every single VW car on site through a test track. With an experienced instructor beside you, you’ll get to really drive the way a nice car should be driven (hard and fast with lots of curves)! You’ll also get some VIP goodies and treated as such the entire time you’re there. (The event is free, but the VIP allows you to bypass any line, drive as many cars as you like and as I said other VIP stuff.)
Lastly, I have 12 passes to a two week advanced screening (July 21st at Empress Walk) of The Change Up. For a full synopsis visit – http://www.thechangeupmovie.com - God Olivia Wilde is hot. I’d switch bodies with Ryan Reynolds too… just in general. Gah, guess I better go do my P90x after this. The Change Up comes to theaters on August 5th. Oh, and after the movie, join me at @BostonPizzaYS!
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Lots of good stuff if you ask me! So, here’s how we’re going to do it..
Each prize will have it’s own draw. But you can only win once. I’ll draw the tickets first, the book second and the VW experience third. You can only win once. So if your name is called for a movie ticket, you can’t win the other prizes. You CAN put your name into one, a choice of two or all three of the draws though.
Here’s how to increase your odds;
- Add a comment below of which one(s) you would like to win. This will earn you one ballot for each draw. Limit of 5 comments!
- Just tweet me directly with an @reply which you’d like to win, that will earn you 2 ballots, just make sure to include one of the three hashtags so I can keep track, oh and a limit of 2 times for this way.
- Tweet the following (only include the hashtag(s) you want to win). “No one really likes tweet to win contests @zachbussey #thechangeup #vwexp #lindseykelk - http://bit.ly/pN6CxV” (Or just click the Tweet button below.) This will earn you 10 ballots but can only be done once.
Simple? As simple as it gets I guess haha. I’ll do the draw on July 13th!
YOU MIGHT GET SOMETHING! AND YOU MIGHT GET SOMETHING! AND YOU MIGHT GET SOMETHING!
WINNERS – The Change Up
@Kellyldewolf
@mkshft‘
@gigigamble
@janeccman
@katlikeeyes
@inseansopinion
@shankell
@thedanlevy
@leoraheilbronn
@shwetajacob
@erikanerd
@sadafgee
WINNER – Lindsey Kelk, The Single Girls To-Do List
@pinkkcrush
WINNER – Volkswagen Freedriving Experience
@jkozuch
